Ever wondered how a sex coach decides to make sex their job? Athena Mae found her unlikely calling as a teenager, when friends came to her with their questions. Then she started teaching body-positive sex education. This is what 20 years of shedding myths about sex and body size has taught her.
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Originally published on Persephone Magazine. Please note: Fat sex is a very big issue heh. Because my area of expertise is limited to sex with size difference as a woman with a vagina, I chose not to explore other areas of fat sex, such as the mechanics of two fat people having sex or trans fat sex for women without vaginas. I welcome all here with that experience to speak up and contribute if they feel comfortable. Sometimes that made me feel more at ease, but mostly it became tedious, distracted me from feeling sexy, and annoyed the crap out of my partner who just wanted to see his hot girlfriend naked. Well, he totally knew how fat I was, and guess what. It took me a long time to realize that my partners were having sex with me in part because of the way my body looks, not in spite of the way my body looks.
It's a subject which is still taboo and sometimes a source of ridicule - fat people having sex. Emma Tamsin Hill is one of those people and she has made a film which looks at the concerns of Britain's increasingly super-size population. Now 22, she says the three years while she studied were a steep learning curve of how men behaved towards her. She said: "Looking back I think men preyed on me because of my size.
Many years before I got together with my boyfriend, I had a sex thing with this guy that I thought was relationship-material. He not only had an amazing body but a great personality as well. I was honest when I met him that I was looking for something more than just sex, and he led me to believe that was what he wanted, too.