Suddenly sliding away from that peak is disappointing, to say the least. That's doubly true for women, many of whom find it much harder to achieve orgasm during penetrative sex. In fact, according to a recent survey, only 65 percent of heterosexual women consistently reach the pinnacle of pleasure during sex. So what can you do to help her reach that peak? Help her relax, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.
If you're a woman who finds climaxing easy and can have orgasms during intercourse with little effort — even in a position where it's difficult for your partner to access the clitoris with the fingertips — then you are very lucky indeed! For the majority of us, 'ringing that bell' is not nearly so simple. Even women who can masturbate to a climax with no difficulty can feel quite anxious about 'coming' with a male partner. This doesn't seem fair, because apart from the small minority of men who have psychological difficulties with sex and who cannot relax enough to ejaculate into their partner delayed ejaculation , most males have no problem at all in climaxing during sexual intercourse. But of course, in a man, the penis is the pleasure-provider. And clearly a penis gets a lot of stimulation during intercourse.
Positions to make female orgasm easier during intercourse
The female orgasm can be a mysterious and intimidating prospect. That can be a bit of a blow to the ego. And what makes it so complicated? Turns out, quite a lot. We have to get a lot more going in our sex equation to make that happen.
Much like with stand-up, in the bedroom, I had beginner's luck that gave me a false impression of my abilities. In college, I hooked up with a woman who lost her shit at my slightest touch. How could I not think I was truly the gangster of love? Alas, other women didn't experience complete particle reversal by simply having me blow in their ear.